Saturday, August 31, 2013

Where there is House there will be Mouse : ( Happens only in Toronto)

What happens when a Canadian Cowboy..his Indian love..a pack of mice and a Punjabi landlord  meet  in a Toronto apartment.
Armed with the knowledge of all my tenant rights in Canada I confronted the new landlord with the shocking news : “ I have mice in my home” I told this elderly moustachioed gentlemen  Mr B P Sharma.

“You have a mouse ?” he asked in what I thought was an astonished tone. Until he said “Where there is House there will be mouse !” With his thick Punjabi accent and down to earth tone. It sounded pretty straightforward to me. “ You remember in India there were mice running around in all the houses. No body called the landlord. We hunted them ourselves.” He said.


Then as if to compromise he sent a man in a Blue Uniform from the “ Paste( pest) control services  Brampton ” To catch the rodents.

My Tibetan neighbours  below confronted the man Rajat Singh even before he stepped into the house.“ you can stun the mice they told him, but please do not kill them, Lord Buddha is the friend of all beings”.

The trapper came up to my apartment on the first floor “ I have been in this business for 20 years” he said “ never have I heard of a request to half kill a mouse and not fully kill it.now .what would you like..? he barked

“ Well there is a family of rats in My Kitchen” I said “they have eaten my food, chewed  up my clothes and shoes and they party all night. So I guess I would like to see them go..


He then set up some small black boxes containing rat poison in the strategic places of my  tiny home. Three months later their tribe had increased. Seems like they were too fat to get into the Black Box rat traps or the Tibetan `mantras’ that save mice actually worked!

My Canadian Cowboy Brian had had enough by now. Whenever he stayed over weekends with me. The mice actually nibbled at his toes and looked loving into his sleepy brown eyes..

One weekend he went into Canadian Tyre and bought the whole ammunition. Super Glue traps, snap traps and what have you..
Brian spent all Sunday setting up the traps “ I do not want to hear a word of protest from you about kindness to animals and how cute they look “ he warned in his deepest Cowboy voice “ One word and you and the mice will all be shipped off to India.”

A week later we were just sitting back to watch "The Pink Panther Strikes again " when two mice ran into the room. They saw Brian and skidded butts first into the gap under the side door. The movie was put on hold while Cowboy of mine..searched the apartment room by room for the `daredevils' and then decided to hold his fire for the night.


My angry letters to the landlord never worked.." Miss Lipi" he said " these are very small issues..there are many bigger things happening in life..go after them.. " sure I answered..
So the Cowboy and me followed the " Bigger issues in life.".We went up cruising in  the 30,000 islands  of Parry sound and dreamed of setting up a home by the lake and the mountians. oneday soon. We  saw deer and Golden Eagles..we splashed the beaches at Killbear National park , looked out for bear and drove through the breath taking mountains and Lakes of Muskoka,Port Carlton , Bala and more...Toronto..the mice and the city seemed so far far away..

 
When we came back..the mice almost opened the door for us..they were so fat, sleek. oily and ..bold and also many. more. ( since the last count)..They had not missed us one bit but had been holding their own `Labour Day' party..(in celebration of freedom )..





Food and tissue paper lay strewn over the floor and the distinct smell of "mice and the things they do" hung over the air..we both had had enough..

I had two options- Call the city ( civic authorities).. that would have been cruel on the good landlord and Tibetan neighbours or move out..!

Last count the Mice..the landlord and the Tibetans were still around..but the Cowboy and I are soon moving out to a place in the  beautiful mountains!

 

 

 

Friday, August 30, 2013

Cowboy and I..watch the The Beach boys in Toronto..More Golden than Olden..


Brian took me to the CNE ( Canadian National Exhibition) on Sunday ( August 18th)..The day ended at the live show of The legendary band Beach Boys.
Hearing them play live was the best thing that has happened to me in a long time..I was so high that I kept singing the lines from `Surfin USA' all through the night..until my cowboy Brian asked me to calm down and chill..

Nothing news worthy for a Canadian girl except that I grew up in India almost 15000 miles away in another continent .so.why would the Beach Boys excite me so much?
There was an Album 'Oldies but Goldie's' with the songs of Glen Cambell , Frank Sinatra the Beach Boys and other famous singers of the time in our home in India ( city of Poona ( Pune) near Bombay ( Mumbai..)

This was back in the 80's .My big Brother Tutu and I were growing up. Both in High School and this was a world we wished we were in ..but could only follow on the Long Playing records as a reminder of the golden days my parents had been part of..

Dad and Mom never forgot the best days of their lives in the mid to late 1960s when they had immigrated to Canada soon after their marriage.

N America was a totally different world for them .it gave them a sense of freedom..growth and romance that they had never known in India..Dad and Mom did return to India eventually in 1970 to fulfill family obligations and take care of their aging parents...

Dad and Mom lived in St Catherine's town by the Niagara falls and the American border. They were perhaps the only Indian couple in those days there and Dad loved everything N American..from Dunkin donuts to the Simpson Sears store.
Dad worked as an Engineer for the Foster Wheeler company and he was responsible for initializing one of the first International collaborations between India and Canada in Boiler manufacturing Technology..way back in the early 70s. ( but that is another story)


A connoisseur of good music whether it was Rabindra Sangeet Indian) or Jazz..they never missed any of the shows that were held by the American singers at the Niagara Falls in those days. I remember him mentioning Glen Cambell and the famous Jazz Artists of the 60s playing live there on occasion. It was a magical world which they were blessed to be part of..

Back in India.My father who was always nostalgic for N America would buy the old American records from the Taj Mahal hotels record store in Mumbai. One of.the only stores where you could buy good American music in India at that time .So we grew up listening to 'Surfin Safari' , `By the Time I get to Phoenix' , The Carpenters and other Golden Oldies as well as Indian music..always imagining what it would be like to grow up in N America..

..and here was I with my Canadian love Brian..three decades later..we were two amongst the thousands of people at the Band Shell at the CNE that late evening..it was beautiful ..a light breeze, perfect weather..the moon rising over Lake Ontario and then the Beach Boys came out....filled with as much if not more energy that most of the teenagers in the crowd..The crowd went wild..


As the Beach Boys sang some of the crowd favorites I could see many of the older couples holding hands and looking at each other as the band and their music carried them back in time...just at it carried me back to the Music room at home in India. some of it nostalgic ..some of it funny.. remembering those days when all of us cousins, would be trying to dance the `twist' or gyrate to the latest 'rock' song until we were `caught in the act' and spanked soundly..
( Wild dancing not approved by parents in those days in India :)

Back to the Band Shell.... Brian and I stand at the back of the lawns..he at 6 feet + can almost look into the future.and me at 5 ft nothing can see - nothing ! He suddenly catches hold of my hand and pulls me from way back in the stadium to the very front near the stage..and the security barriers..we are up there in the flood lights.. catching evey song and dance move and the energy is so electric..me holding his warm hand tightly and looking up to him with stars in my eyes,( he says my eyes look like fireflies dancing in the night ) .


I Think of my big bad brother. Tutu.and how much he would have loved meeting Brian and enjoyed this night. We would have talked of old times and how far we have come since then..( You've come a long way Baby!) He in far way Dubai and I..?

Well I did get here to N America and see the Beach Boys Live eventually ..following my Father's footsteps of adventure and .a passion to experience life.. and I did meet a real Canadian Cowboy....one who I fell very deeply in love with !

I could not see it ..but somehow Dad with his keen intelligence and foresight did..he knew that my true Canadian Cowboy was in Canada waiting for me !
Nothing in life came easily to me....but when I moved to Canada alone and eventually met Brian.almost five years ago...I knew that he was the one I had always searched for .


In Vedanta we call that `'samskcara.. (impressions from other lives or times that shapes the way a person thinks and what dreams they follow..)
.

Brian instinctively knew of what I liked and what I did not..what music my dad would have heard when he was in Canada and what he would have done if he was around..the places he would have taken me to..he can almost read my thoughts just the way I do his..like my dad he has a zest for life..can talk about a thousand subjects with in depth knowledge and has an open mind that lets us enjoy everything of each others cultures and yet remain uniquely ourselves..



23 years this November since my Dad passed on but whenever I look at Brian I know that this is why Dad had taught me to love Canada so much long before I got here..
Dad knew me too well and kind of understood that I had too much of his own adventurous spirit to ever settle into an arranged marriage and allow others to do the thinking for me.
I have paid many a high price for my rebellious spirit..too much of heart break ..Like the song More than a feeling by another band `Boston' which both Brian and I love..

"
So many people have come and gone
Their faces fade as the years go by
Yet I still recall as I wander on
as clear as the sun in the summer sky

It's more than a feeling (more than a feeling)
When I hear that old song they used to play (more than a feeling)
I begin dreaming (more than a feeling
)


..and in the end when your intentions are clear and honest you get to where you are reaching for..and people begin to see your point of view and wish that they had the guts to live their life like those who follow their own drum beat.....just like the Band Beach Boys..

I got to see them live 30 years after I heard them first on the LP record back at home. 15000 miles away in another country...
So this is one big thumps up from me for the Beach Boys..your concert at the CNE marked a moment in which I could measure the milestones of my journey so far in life..